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Hold Up..Take Break Beyonce Is Pregnant With Twins 

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There’s no doubt social media is a significant part of our daily lives.You can hardly go out for dinner without having people upload pictures of their meals to Instagram or take a quick selfie. Our generation is defined by a culture of likes, tweets and snaps, which can all be very distracting at times (to say the least). So, this begs the question: Do the benefits of social media really justify the amount of time we spend on it? Here are seven reasons why you should limit the amount of time you spend on social media: 
1. Social media leads you to focus on others more than yourself. 

One of the main problems with social media is you are often bombarded by others’ accomplishments. Whether it’s someone uploading photos from his or her graduation or tweeting about an awesome new car, social media implicitly causes us to compare ourselves to others. It’s not surprising that studies have shown individuals who spend a significant amount of time on social media report feelings of increased anxiety and low self-esteem. The awareness for this type of problem has increased to the point where there’s now even a name for it: Social Media Anxiety Disorder. Furthermore, many people we to whom we are connected on social media aren’t even what I would consider to be friends — I know the majority of my Facebook “friends” are really just old classmates I haven’t spoken to in several years. The point is, we shouldn’t waste time scrutinizing what others are doing, especially if we aren’t even close with them to begin with. Instead, we should focus on pursuing our own personal goals.

2. Social media presents us with a distorted version of reality.

As I mentioned in the previous point, it’s obvious the majority of what we see on social media doesn’t relate to positive thoughts or happy moments. We tend not to see the struggles or low points in the lives of others, which makes us feel more conscious of our own flaws. As a result, many people who use social media fall into the trap of trying to make their lives seem more glamorous than they really are. In fact, I’ve heard many stories from friends who claim they are depressed or unhappy, despite those beautifully filtered pictures on their Instagram feeds. We sometimes forget the fact that what we see on social media does not truly represent someone’s life; rather, it’s just a glimpse at one specifically chosen moment in it. Once again, we should be more concerned with reality instead of trying to project a certain image via social media.

3. Social media causes your happiness to be too dependent on others.

Using social media is dangerous because you can easily get trapped in the mindset of seeking validation from others. Your happiness should primarily depend on whether or not you enjoy a certain situation and not what others think. For example, if you go out for dinner and eat an amazing meal, you should feel happy because it tasted great and not because you got over 100 likes on your photo of it. Unfortunately, many people who use social media too much get accustomed to receiving this kind of attention, and it becomes almost like an addiction they need to satisfy. While it’s a nice feeling to think people are paying attention to what you are doing, it is important to question how much it really matters. Should you really care if someone you haven’t talked to in several years likes your newest profile picture? Happiness should mainly come from within, and you should only really care about sharing your experiences with those closest to you.

4. Social media doesn’t allow you to interact with friends in a substantial way.

If you really consider people your friends, you should do more than post on their timelines for their birthdays and like their latest Instagram photos. In fact, I would say I barely use social media to interact with my close friends. The reason for this is simply because I actually spend time with them in real life or in more personal ways, like having a conversation via Skype. What I’m trying to say is social media doesn’t actually help you develop or maintain real friendships with others. Interaction via social media is usually superficial and has no real effect on whether we consider someone a friend. I hope you would not suddenly stop talking to your friends simply because they deactivated their social media accounts. Posting on social media is simply the icing on the cake when it comes to true friendships, but it certainly is not what sustains them.

5. Social media can distract you from the moment.
Social media often prevents us from paying attention to what is actually happening. I’m sure we’ve all had that one friend who spends more time checking his or her Facebook or Instagram feed for updates than actually talking when you go out for dinner. As a result, the whole experience becomes less enjoyable. It’s easy to fall into the routine of checking social media sites whenever you have a chance, but by doing so, we tend to appreciate reality less. If you attend a concert and are constantly tweeting about how great an artist is, aren’t you actually distracting yourself from the performance? Or, if you go hiking but constantly stop every couple of minutes to take a selfie, aren’t you missing out on the natural beauty of wherever you are?I realize these examples are exaggerated, but the bottom line is social media often detracts from the beauty of the moment. We should exercise caution when using it.
6. Social media tends to make your life too public.
Is it really important to upload those pictures from last night’s party that you can barely remember taking? Should all of your 1,000 plus Facebook friends really know (or care) about what event you are going to next week?We tend to forget almost everything we do on social media is recorded in some way. This can be problematic, as it could be possible for individuals we would rather not share things with (like our parents or a potential employer) to see certain areas of our lives. Even if you restrict who can view your social media account, it’s important to question whether it’s necessary or even safe, to reveal so much information about your life to individuals you barely know.

7. Social media can make it harder to move forward with your life.

Social media sometimes makes it hard to let go of our pasts. It’s difficult to get over your ex if you constantly see pictures of him or her with someone else or having fun without you. Similarly, it might be difficult to buckle down and study when you notice all your friends are constantly posting pictures of themselves, enjoying the beautiful outdoor weather. This relates back to the very first point in this article: Sometimes social media makes us less focused on our own lives and more focused on what others are doing. In order to truly move forward, we need to limit the distractions around us.

While social media has the potential to be great, like by sharing interesting ideas or thoughts with others, most of us use it in very unproductive and unnecessary ways. We could probably all benefit from limiting the time we spend on frivolous tasks related to social media and instead devote the time to the people and activities that matter to us. Above all, we should remember there’s a whole physical world out there. We shouldn’t be afraid to put down our smart phones once in a while and explore it. Via Moose A Elite Daily.

xxxxx,

Janice 

This Is the Type of Romantic Relationship That’s Least Likely to Last

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Do you ever wonder why some relationships have staying power while others seem doomed to fail? Psychology can actually predict where your relationship is headed, as detailed in a scientific paper titled Pathways of Commitment to Wed: The Development and Dissolution of Romantic Relationships. Researchers found that relationships fall into one of four categories and within the most populated of the categories (34% of relationships) are the couples most prone to breakups.

As highlighted by Business Insider, the study assessed nearly 400 heterosexual unmarried couples between ages 19 and 35, interviewing them over the course of nine months and asking how likely it was the participants would marry their partners. The four commitment patterns arose. First, partner-focused commitments were when the participants’ likelihood of getting married increased with positive developments in the relationship, showing forward progression. Socially-involved commitments found participants’ reasons changed due to an outside social involvement, such as their mom approving or disapproving, but showed relatively few dips in levels of commitment. Conflict-ridden commitments were relationships affected by conflicts and that became stuck in the same stage without advancement or regression. This category is related to the final and most dangerous category—dramatic commitments—and the only real difference is how couples were able to handle conflict.

Relationships that were dramatic commitments were characterized by significant downturns in their level of commitment. “Dramatic commitments appear to have a relatively turbulent progression toward commitment that is riddled with negative views of the relationship,” the study notes. These individuals were also more likely to spend time with separate friend groups The chances of these relationships ending in a breakup over the course of the study was about double to any other group. By Domaine. Head to the comments to weigh in on these findings.

xxxxxxx,

Janice 

6 Science-Backed Tips to Impress Everyone You Meet 

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We’ve all been there. Sitting across from someone we admire, crippled with anxiety because we don’t want to do or say the wrong thing, and knowing full well that first impressions last the longest. Whether you’re conscious of it or not, a Princeton University study found it only takes 1/10 of a second to judge someone based on their appearance. We agree it isn’t right, but it’s a reality. So knowing this fact, how do we make a killer first impression and ensure their memory of you is a positive one?Turns out there are a few science-backed tricks you can keep up your manicured sleeve to help when the tongue starts to tie next time. And if you really don’t feel confident, then practice makes perfect—and these conversation starters will help too. 


DON’T WASTE TIME

When you’re trying to make a mark, don’t wait. According to new research, you only have the blink of an eye to truly get your act together and impress that person. It might not seem fair to be judged in 1/10 of a second, but psychologists believe this “accelerated and accurate ability to judge trustworthiness in others may have evolved as an important survival mechanism.” So if you really want your prospective employer, future partner, or new friend to walk away with a good feeling about you after the first meeting, act quickly and employ some of our strategies outlined below.

HAVE A CONFIDENT HANDSHAKE

If this isn’t something that comes naturally to you, then practice it with friends or colleagues to perfect it. New neuroscience research from a paper published in the Journal of Cognitive Neuroscience confirmed the power of a firm, friendly handshake when making a good first impression in both social and business circumstances.

“We found that it not only increases the positive effect toward a favorable interaction, but it also diminishes the impact of a negative impression,” said research lead Sanda Dolcos. “Many of our social interactions may go wrong for a reason or another, and a simple handshake preceding them can give us a boost and attenuate the negative impact of possible misunderstandings.”

WAIT BEFORE YOU SPEAK

Known for her research on power posing and its confidence-boosting benefits, social psychologist Amy Cuddy recently turned her attention to first impressions and found we evaluate people on two things: trustworthiness and confidence. So in that 1/10 of a second, you need to establish the other person’s trust. But how do you convey trust in a first interaction? Cuddy says you need to let the other person speak first. Being overly dominant will come across as threatening and they’ll either feel defensive or “try to out alpha you.”

To do this, Cuddy suggests simply asking them a question. “I think people make the mistake, especially in business settings, of thinking that everything is negotiation,” she told Wired. “They think, ‘I better get the floor first so that I can be in charge of what happens.’ The problem with this is that you don’t make the other person feel warmth toward you. Warmth is really about making the other person feel understood. They want to know that you understand them. And doing that is incredibly disarming.

MAKE EYE CONTACT WHEN YOU DO

Before you roll your eyes at something so seemingly obvious, we couldn’t compile a story about first impressions without reiterating how important this simple act is. Maintaining eye contact is crucial if you want to establish trust and transfer integrity toward the person you’re trying to impress. A study in the journal Personality and Social Psychology Bulletin and reported in Business News Daily found a “significant correlation between people looking while they spoke and how others judged their intelligence.”

We truly understand how intimidating some of these can be, especially if it’s for a major career opportunity or meeting the parents of your significant other for the first time, but making a conscious effort to connect with them at eye level will make all the difference in solidifying a strong connection.

USE THE POWER OF FACIAL CUES

Since we already know that people judge us in 1/10 of a second based on our appearance, then use your facial expressions and physical characteristics to change it. A research article published in the Journal of Experimental Psychology: General found facial cues can shape one’s perception of your intelligence and attractiveness. A nice smile goes a long way in enhancing your appeal during a first meeting. But not all smiles were created equal. The study reported in Psychology Today found that a “large grin can make someone seem naive, while a subtle smile with just a slight upturn in the curvature of the mouth can make people appear more intelligent as well as friendly.”

ADJUST YOUR TONE OF VOICE

Now that you’ve nailed all the above, it’s time to get your tone of voice in order. Wait, what? Now I need to worry about how my voice sounds during a first meeting? According to psychologist Drew Randell at the University of Lethbridge in Canada, “People do make snap judgments when they hear someone’s voice.” In fact, new research by Phil McAleer, a psychologist at the University of Glasgow in the United Kingdom and lead author, found people formed an opinion on someone based on the tone of voice and could determine whether they were trustworthy or untrustworthy based on a 300- to 500-millisecond soundbite of hello. “It is amazing that from such short bursts of speech you can get such a definite impression of a person,” McAleer told Science Mag. “And that, irrespective of whether it is accurate, your impression is the same as what the other listeners get.” Do you agree with science? Would you try any of these tactics? Shop our top book selection below for more insight on how to impress someone you admire. By Domaine.

xxxxxxx,

Janice