Ah, another night, another midnight bedtime, I think to myself (again) as my head hits the pillow.
I have always been a night owl, and you’d think since becoming a parent I would have switched from night owl to early bird…but…I haven’t.
I mean, I still have to get up early with my children. But, I also still go to bed late—for a variety of reasons. The desire to get time to myself almost always beats out getting a great night’s sleep.
Why, when Arianna Huffington has proclaimed sleep to be the key to success? If sleep is her superpower, mine must be surviving daily on 6 hours of sleep and lots and lots of coffee. (I mean, isn’t that why there are so many coffee/mom memes out there?)
Why, when the Public Library of Science Journal tells us that people who sleep around 6 hours a night have a waistline that’s 1.2 inches larger than those getting around 9 hours? (So, if I sleep more does that mean I don’t have to exercise then? Because maybe I can get down with that…)
Why, when we are told that our sleep schedules are just as important as our children’s?
Why, when we KNOW we are working around 98 hour weeks and absolutely could use any extra rest we can get?
Why, when the mental load of motherhood is exhausting and I know that but yet I continue to push ‘rest’ down to the bottom of my to-do list?
Well, let me tell you…
I stay up late because the allure of peace and quiet—while everyone else sleeps—is too appealing to miss out on.
I stay up late because the desire to have time to myself—to do whatever I want, without answering to anyone else—is too precious to pass up.
I stay up late because I want time to zone out and binge watch Parenthood without feeling like I need to be doing anything else.
I stay up late because my passion for my work runs deep, and sometimes I just can’t seem to switch it off.
I stay up late because I want to finally start that book I bought a month ago.
I stay up late because I want to do a face mask and sit in the tub without feeling rushed.
I stay up late because I want a sliver of time to feel like “human-adult-me.” Not “mom-wife-me.” Just me.
I stay up late because I want time to let my brain think and process—without distractions and noise.
I stay up late because at 11:00 p.m. toddlers aren’t asking to go to the park or to make waffles. (Usually.)
I stay up late because I am mildly addicted to technology and often find myself mindlessly scrolling through Facebook and Instagram to catch up on what’s going on in the world before I give in to sleep.
I stay up late because I can’t seem to be okay with the fact that I don’t get any time to myself during the day. Does time while sleeping count as “time to myself?”
(I don’t think I can survive on my “me time” also being my sleep time…)
I stay up late because I always have. And my life as a mother has changed enough for me. I want to keep this part of my past non-mom life in tact. (I’m stubborn like that.)
I stay up late because even the “you need to go to bed earlier!” talks I get from my husband don’t make me feel bad enough to stop this addiction.
I stay up late because no matter how many times I go to bed late, then wake up and swear “I’m going to bed at 9:30 tonight no matter what!”—I literally never do.
These late night hours are my time to be selfish. To think of me—and me only. In this world of motherhood, we don’t often get time or space to put our needs first. Because throughout the day, the needs of others must be filled. But late at night, my people are all safely, peacefully sleeping, and I can focus on whatever is calling to me in the moment.
It’s my time to be choosey in a life that consists mostly on making choices for and on behalf of other people.
Every time these free, peaceful hours are calling to me, I try to tell them I need sleep. That sleep is good for my brain and my body and my soul. But they always counter argue with the fact that staying up late and fitting “me time” in is even better for me. And they usually win.
Mostly, I stay up late because it is one way I stay sane in this very intense life of mothering young children. This quiet, uninterrupted time to myself fuels me in a way sleep can’t right now. (And yes—I’m sure sleep experts out there would argue otherwise!)
So maybe when my kids are a little older, I’ll get more sleep…maybe not.
Either way—for now—you can find me wide awake at that alluring, quiet midnight hour happily doing, well…whatever I want! By Colleen from Motherly Colleen Temple Colleen is a wife and mom to three awesome girls. She is the Motherly Stories Editor at Motherly. Follow her adventures on Instagram.
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Just in time for Prematurity Awareness Month, Pampers has come up with a novel solution for preemies who can’t wear diapers.
When a baby is born preterm, parents face challenges they didn’t expect—including some they didn’t even realize existed. For instance, you might have known that many preemies don’t wear clothes in the NICU (Neonatal Intensive Care Unit), but did you know that some can’t even wear diapers? But now there’s a new option: a first-of-its-kind flat diaper from Pampers that allows better access to these tiny babies for doctors and nurses, and protects preemies’ delicate skin.
An alternate diapering solution
Why do preemies need alternatives to traditional diapers? “Because a premature baby still needs to develop, it is important that he or she sleeps with minimal environmental stimulation, such as noise and light—or ill-fitting diapers,” Amy Wiford, Pampers Nurse Specialist and a NICU nurse for 10 years, tells Parents.com. “It is also important to support proper developmental positioning, with less disruption via minimal handling.”
Without any elastic, tape, or fragrance, the diaper is designed to lay flat under the baby to maximize skin exposure for treatments like phototherapy for jaundice. “Conditions that might make it difficult for a preemie—especially extremely low birth-weight infants—to wear a regular diaper include Hyperbilirubinemia (jaundice), abdominal defects and surgeries, and severe skin breakdown,” Wiford says, adding that a flat diaper can help to fulfill unmet needs of preemies in the NICU with these types of conditions, by promoting open-air healing as well as giving healthcare professionals better access to care for complications due to birth defects and/or post-operative care.
Supporting the “littlest fighters”
Prematurity has increased for the second year in a row; the preterm birth rate in the U.S. is now 9.8 percent. “Many people don’t know this, but preterm birth is a national health crisis,” Wiford says. “Thankfully, advances in medical science have allowed many of these babies to thrive in the NICU.” Support for preemies is crucial for research, education, and advocacy programs for these tiny babies and their parents.
For Prematurity Awareness Month this November, Pampers has partnered with March of Dimes to donate a box of flat diapers to every NICU in the country. If you have a baby in the NICU and are interested in flat diapers, which are only available in hospitals, ask your nurse or healthcare professionals if they’re right for your little one.
Check out Pampers’ new video on these littlest fighters featuring Rachel Platten’s “Fight Song”—we dare you not to cry! Parents.com By Tina Donvito. Picture by Pampers.
And if you’re interested in giving back, share a story about your baby’s fighting spirit on Facebook, Twitter, or Instagram using the hashtag #LittlestFighters until November 17 and Pampers will donate $5 to the March of Dimes—or subscribe for any new Pampers on Amazon Prime from November 11-17 and Pampers will donate $10.
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