Why People Who Marry Ambitious Women End Up the Happiest in Life

There’s a saying that when you find the right person, your life should take off more than it settles down. That phrase is only so popular because there are so many people who see marriage and partnership like a finish line, the other side at which they are free to relax into life and stop trying so hard. Their objective was to be chosen, and everything they did until that moment was to make themselves the best pick.

There is a difference between people who marry ambitious women and people who don’t, and you see it in almost every part of their lives. There’s a difference in how they live, how they interact, what they argue about, what they do together.

Ambitious women are passionate about bettering themselves and their lifestyle. When you couple up with someone like that, you feel it ripple into every part of your existence.

There are so many stories and stigmas about ambitious women, and how unwise it is to marry one. This is because you’re only hearing about the outliers, the Miranda Priestleys of the world. The career-obsessed, heartless women who don’t have time to pencil a date into their schedule.

But this is not what most ambitious women are like… not even close. Most ambitious women want to work hard to provide for themselves and their families. They are as aspirational about their relationships as they are about their résumés. They are committed to a lifelong journey of self-growth. Their wedding is not the single most important day of their lives. They don’t need to be taken care of. They are willing to change when they need to. They’re not afraid to hold you to a higher standard than you’ve ever held yourself. Their whole life has been about becoming the strong, successful partner they were always told to marry.

These are the women who aren’t afraid to work a second job at night not only so that their kids can eat, but so that they can go on field trips and have the sneakers they want. These are the women who see their roles at home as equally important as their ones in the world. These are the women who log their hours in their offices and businesses and then care just as much about PTA meetings and pre-school and making time to have sex with their partners. These are the women who do not complain that everything is “so hard” even when it really, really is.

Ambitious women are holistic about their approach to life. They have multiple interests. They read, they share information they find useful. They have hobbies and friends and a plan for what happens to their lives once they’re done being caretakers. Via PSiloveyou.

It’s time we stop categorizing ambitious women as corporate she-devils who are too damaged to find real love.



Never Apologize for Being a Strong Woman

Never Apologize for Being a Strong Woman

Two weeks ago, I posted an article to LinkedIn by Steve Wiens. It is titled, “An Ode to Women Who Are Too Much.” I have often been categorized as “too much.” The response to the article has been amazing, so thank you to Steve Wiens for recognizing that strong women are necessary to this world.

Strong women are often called assertive. They are straightforward about their wants and needs. They often rub people the wrong way. However, women who are strong are complex. They may have a background that has created the need to be gritty, tenacious, and passionate in a way that other people take offense to.

Many of us have been interpreted as demanding or even bossy. But the truth is that strong women can also be very sensitive and thoughtful. Here are eight things that I believe a strong woman brings to all of her encounters:

  1. She stands up for herself. Strong women are outspoken when it comes to confronting others about being treated poorly. When an injustice has taken place, they speak up rather than let it roll off.
  2. She invests in herself. Whether it’s learning something new, pushing themselves to be healthier, or taking a big step outside their comfort zone, these women know that investments they make for themselves and their life offers guaranteed dividends.
  3. She has boundaries. When a strong woman makes decisions, she checks in with herself first to see if she really wants to do it and has the time and space to invest in an opportunity. She says yes to opportunities which strengthen herself and no to those that diminish.
  4. She celebrates other women. Strong women encourage other women. They focus on recognizing and celebrating the strengths they see in other women. She is vocal in her support.
  5. She knows her worth. While she doesn’t always feel beautiful, intelligent, charming, interesting or even strong, she knows that she always brings value. When she finds herself in a situation with someone who devalues her, she’ll either make it known or leave at the first opportunity.
  6. She doesn’t rely on others’ opinions about her life. While she may internalize negativity, she makes an effort to let the negative comments pass and doesn’t allow the remarks of others to stop her from what is right for her. She understands that negativity says more about the person flinging it than it does about her.
  7. She is confident. Most strong women have a well-defined sense of identity, and their actions are in line with their morals and beliefs. They do not have a need to win others over as much as they need to stay true to their own beliefs.
  8. She decides to be strong. There isn’t a woman among us who has not experienced fear, anxiety, insecurity and other negative emotions that can tear us down. Strong women choose to commit to themselves. We truly embrace the idea that we will never give anything, or anyone, the power to break us.

A strong woman can walk into the room and hold her own with class, grace, and style. It’s never about being rude or demanding. Rather, it’s more about maintaining a personal commitment to guide herself through difficult situations.

I’m proud to be “too much.” I’m proud to be strong. I hope you are too, article by Andrea Heuston.