I do not help my wife.

A friend came to my house for coffee, we sat and talked about life. At some point in the conversation, I said, “I’m going to wash the dishes and I’ll be right back.”

He looked at me as if I had told him I was going to build a space rocket. Then he said to me with admiration but a little perplexed: “I’m glad you help your wife, I do not help because when I do, my wife does not praise me. Last week I washed the floor and no thanks.”

I went back to sit with him and explained that I did not “help” my wife. Actually, my wife does not need help, she needs a partner. I am a partner at home and through that society are divided functions, but it is not a “help” to do household chores.

I do not help my wife clean the house because I live here too and I need to clean it too.

I do not help my wife to cook because I also want to eat and I need to cook too.

I do not help my wife wash the dishes after eating because I also use those dishes.

I do not help my wife with her children because they are also my children and my job is to be a father.

I do not help my wife to wash, spread or fold clothes, because the clothes are also mine and my children.

I am not a help at home, I am part of the house. And as for praising, I asked my friend when it was the last time after his wife finished cleaning the house, washing clothes, changing bed sheets, bathing her children, cooking, organizing, etc. You said thank you

But a thank you of the type: Wow, sweetheart !!! You are fantastic!!!

Does that seem absurd to you? Are you looking strange? When you, once in a lifetime, cleaned the floor, you expected in the least, a prize of excellence with great glory … why? You never thought about that, my friend?

Maybe because for you, the macho culture has shown that everything is her job.

Perhaps you have been taught that all this must be done without having to move a finger? Then praise her as you wanted to be praised, in the same way, with the same intensity. Give her a hand, behave like a true companion, not as a guest who only comes to eat, sleep, bathe and satisfy needs … Feel at home. In his house.

The real change of our society begins in our homes, let us teach our sons and daughters the real sense of fellowship!

Author unknown but truly awesome…via momminghard



This Is the Type of Romantic Relationship That’s Least Likely to Last

Do you ever wonder why some relationships have staying power while others seem doomed to fail? Psychology can actually predict where your relationship is headed, as detailed in a scientific paper titled Pathways of Commitment to Wed: The Development and Dissolution of Romantic Relationships. Researchers found that relationships fall into one of four categories and within the most populated of the categories (34% of relationships) are the couples most prone to breakups.

As highlighted by Business Insider, the study assessed nearly 400 heterosexual unmarried couples between ages 19 and 35, interviewing them over the course of nine months and asking how likely it was the participants would marry their partners. The four commitment patterns arose. First, partner-focused commitments were when the participants’ likelihood of getting married increased with positive developments in the relationship, showing forward progression. Socially-involved commitments found participants’ reasons changed due to an outside social involvement, such as their mom approving or disapproving, but showed relatively few dips in levels of commitment. Conflict-ridden commitments were relationships affected by conflicts and that became stuck in the same stage without advancement or regression. This category is related to the final and most dangerous category—dramatic commitments—and the only real difference is how couples were able to handle conflict.

Relationships that were dramatic commitments were characterized by significant downturns in their level of commitment. “Dramatic commitments appear to have a relatively turbulent progression toward commitment that is riddled with negative views of the relationship,” the study notes. These individuals were also more likely to spend time with separate friend groups The chances of these relationships ending in a breakup over the course of the study was about double to any other group. By Domaine. Head to the comments to weigh in on these findings.